How To Overcome The Lack of
Communication In Your Marriage
by Rose
Corteau
 Is your marriage
suffering because of a breakdown in communication between
you and your spouse?
Are you
feeling like you are all alone in this
marriage?
Do you
feel like your husband or wife just doesn’t get
you?
Don’t despair- this isn’t entirely your fault. Effective
communication skills are something you can learn. Once you
apply these skills to your marriage, you will see an
improvement in your relationship almost instantaneously.
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Before we begin, let’s have a look at some of the reasons we
face barriers in our communication:
Individual Communication Styles – From
the time we are born, all of us adopt a style of communication
that we pick up from our families, friends, school, the media
and everything that surrounds us. It shapes who we are; it
creates for us the patterns we adopt in the way we communicate
with others. If how we communicate is very different from our
spouse, it can cause conflicts in our relationships
Gender Differences - Men and women
communicate differently. Women, in general, tend to ponder
issues and like to discuss things. It allows a woman to process
her thoughts and feelings. Men, on the other hand, are more
wired to set goals and accomplish them. Men tend to view
conversations as informational or factual discussions; men
generally want to resolve the issue at hand.
In short, men tend to want to get things “fixed” while women
tend to look for mutual understanding. It is easy to see how
misunderstandings can occur in marriages.
In the beginning of a romantic relationship, we may overlook
these differences. We take the time to adapt to the person we
hold in our affection. We make the concentrated effort to
understand and be understood by the one we are in love with. We
may find that there are some things that we may not agree with,
but we are less judgmental and more accepting. Once married,
however, we may lose the tolerance we once had and take on a
more judgmental attitude towards each other.
How do we bridge these differences and create a healthy
marriage?
3 key factors to effective communication in a
marriage:
Respect - An open and honest
relationship allows each partner to feel safe in knowing that
it is OK to have different styles even different opinions on
some issues and to respect the other for who they are.
Listen More Talk Less – We need to
listen, not just with our ears but with our hearts; To open
ourselves up to our partners and truly listen to what he or she
is saying and most importantly, to learn from our partners.
Most of the time we are so busy listening to ourselves that we
often fail to hear what our partners are saying. With a little
practice, you will be surprised at how many things you will
learn about your spouse.
Share Feelings - The thing that most
often gets in the way is emotions. We are so tied to our own
emotions and how we feel that it is often hard for us to listen
to our partners when they tell us how they feel. If they don’t
agree with our point of view, it may feel like we are being
scrutinized or criticized. This, of course, may not be the case
at all. Being able to share feelings opens up the channel of
communication for couples; it is the most essential part of
growing together and the first step towards building a
healthier happier relationship.
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