Signs Of A Troubled Marriage

by Rose Corteau

Marriages, like people, are organic in nature. A Marriage is a living and breathing entity that needs to be nurtured in order to grow and flourish. If this doesn’t happen then the marriage becomes stagnant and begins to feel constricted. This happens gradually. Married couples often don’t notice that the relationship is crumbling bit by bit until the joy that once was is no longer. What happened?

Many couples do not plan for when the honeymoon is over.  Everyone thinks that their marriage will last or that the motivation will be there to make it last.  Then life happens - jobs, children, money and other life causing stress enter the picture. Some couples are able to ride the wave, others fall into a slump and head for trouble. 

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7 warning signs of a troubled marriage:

A lack of fun and spontaneity – Remember the butterflies in the stomach feeling of just being with your partner? It didn’t really matter what you two did, it was just the thrill of being together that was exciting and fun.  Understandably, things do simmer down once job and family responsibilities come into play, but there should still be that warm feeling of togetherness.  If instead, there is a complete lack of motivation or worse, a feeling of dread of having to spend time with your spouse, then something isn’t quite right.  If when the two of you are together, one or both of you are downright miserable, this is a warning sign of a marriage in trouble.  

A breakdown in communication – What does this mean?  It is when that feeling of easy conversation goes away.  It is when couples lose common courtesy and respect for each other. Compliments dwindle down to non existent and criticisms may become more prevalent.  Nothing you do or say seems to please your spouse or nothing your spouse does seems to please you.  You begin to feel hopeless or at the very least, apathetic.  Why even bother?  It’s no use - kind of feeling.

A lack of physical intimacy or sexual activity – The hugs and hand holding become non existent.  Sexual activity decreases and/or no longer exits.  If the distance between both you and your spouse gets wider, the risk of becoming involved in an extra-marital affair is high for one or both of you. An affair is usually is a cry for help due to a breakdown in a marriage.

Money issues – A common battleground for married couples is the topic of money.  If you are not sharing a common financial goal, this can create a huge challenge.  If you are hiding your spending or are not able to talk openly about money with your spouse, issues will arise that can cause a rift in your marriage. 

Depression and Anxiety – If one or both of you are suffering from depression or anxiety and if you are not seeking help for this condition, it can put a strain on your marriage. 

Addiction – If one or both of you are in an addictive cycle whether its alcohol, drugs, gambling or any other excessive behavior, it is vital that you acknowledge that you are either married to an addict or you are an addict yourself.  This behavior is an imbalance and creates an imbalance in your marriage. If not treated, the risk of a divorce is very high.

Children – Children are a wonderful part of marriage, but they do come with a lot of responsibilities and take a lot of time and energy.  If children become the center of your focus and completely take over all your time or your schedule is filled to the point where there is nothing left to give to your spouse, the marriage suffers.  It is vital to carve out time for just the two of you.

Take heart, if you see yourself in any of the above scenario. Don’t lose faith; your marriage can be saved.  Marriages can go from hopeless to strong.  With the right kind of support and knowledge, you can gain the courage and motivation you need to transform your marriage into the happy and healthy one you deserve.  Even if you are the only one determined to see your marriage blossom, contrary to belief, it only takes one to turn things around.  Are you ready to embark on this exciting journey?

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